I am not at all a fan of Amanda Seyfried, and is also neither a fan of "famous people" who suddenly decided they are not only actors/actress/entertainers/socialites but is also somehow singers, but I am growing to like this song despite its insane mellowness!
From the movie Dear John.
A movie, I feel I would never get to watch because Magnar and I always watch something else instead of it.
I realize, I am a usually quite a vegetarian (as a diet plan, not because I love animals kind of vegetarian) Anyways, I am usually a vegetarian unless I start meeting people and eat out or happen to be at the Hjelmstads!
*Le Sigh, why do I have no self control? :(
And no, I am not a healthy eater at all, just yesterday I had a chocolate cake, a chocolate sundae and Chicken Tika! Ahh, what massive calorie bomb! :(
My idea is as such, either I can drive myself anorexic trying to get the ideal body (which I would, if I could) or every now and then allow myself to enjoy a little bit of life's little pleasures, just a little more in moderation.
I don't know about you, but I always seperate the egg whites and egg yolks then whisk the egg whites till they are nice and fluffy before adding the yolk back in (or leave out). I always believe that is the recipe to gather in most air thus making the pancakes extra fluffy!
Today I had mine with some leftover strawberries and cream and honey.
The first thing I learnt about relationships is definitely this. Expectations.
When we are younger, all we see are happy couples on cartoons, Prince Charming being there for every single Princess, Prince Charming always looks spectacular and flawless, they wait indefinitely for that one Princess, and in other words, they were just the "perfect man"
It has also been embedded in us that, second best is never good enough.
In many ways, I still want the best of everything. But when it comes to relationship, the way I see it, there is no such thing as perfection.
I have never came across one. Honestly, have you?
That person always seeking perfection. That person is always me.
I mean, Why should we settle for anything less when our happiness right?
That was before I realize this one flaw in seeking perfection.
In perfection, comes illusions.
Illusions of things, that you become deluded believing that perfection exist. And you know exactly what happens when you look for perfection, you overlooked what right there in front of you. You push aside an entire perfectly fine person because they come with some flaws.
I cannot lie, but it did take me a few months to see Magnar for the wonderful guy he was. Still is.
So what? he is not a royal family (so I can become an official princess?) So what? I don't get showered with flowers and chocolates every day? So what if I don't get trips to Paris for the weekend? So what if he doesn't buy me my Chanel's and Marc Jacobs?
Magnarboy is better than Prince Charming, mainly because he is real.
And he has given me more than any Prince could have, he has given me a chance to look at myself and realize that life is worth living. That there is possible to open yourself out to more people than just yourself.
I don't really need my material wants and needs, things and money are a measure of nothing. And more often than not, they are things you can easily get with a little hard work.
And before looking for someone elses' flaws, remind yourself that everyone is flawed.
And that includes basically you and me.
So relationship cliché #1 : True
Its easy to like someone for their perfections, but when you can look past that is when you know you have something special.
So, I usually don't talk about relationships on my blog ever, unless I do it unknowingly.
This is mainly because, even though in many ways I think what Magnar and I have is quite amazing, it is no guarantee that things will always be this way.
It really doesn't take much to put a strain on relationships you know.
That, and I really don't like prying people.
I think I tell too much about myself here as it is.
And I should know, because every now and then I get so emotionally pissed at everything and everyone, I myself don't know how tomorrow will turn out. :)
But lucky me, Magnar has always been nice enough to weather some emotional storms and we are still going strong. In less than a weeks time, we would have been "officially dating" for 2 years. Plus minus.
So since I am feeling a bit on the mushy mode, I thought I would do a stream of "How idiots make relationship work, the cliché and if it works" :)